Friday, July 17, 2009

Children born after a stillbirth--are they affected?

Well, my uneducated response to a question like this would be, "Duh." But, I have to admit, I would have no idea just how they'd be affected. A new study in The Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry has tried to come up with some answers, though. British researchers followed 52 mothers who'd had children after a stillbirth, to see if they could discern any effect. Basically, the kids were alright--but the researchers did report "less than optimal" mother-child interaction, and comment on the fact that these mothers tended to report more problems with their kids, and to be more critical of them. Here's a write-up of the study. These findings makes me sad. It's not that I don't feel for the mothers. I can't even imagine what it must be like to give birth to a stillborn baby. It's just so sad for the kids who come next, and have no idea what they're being born into. It's that actor-coming-into-a-play-without-a-script phenomenon I talk about in my book. I hope studies like this make it possible to help these moms early on, so that the loss doesn't get transmitted in this way.


Anonymous said...

Please help me i was born after a still born and i wasn't ever told tell this tell my moher died I can't believe im writing this. My life is so " " Please help !!!!

Anonymous said...

I was born after still born. I found this out after my mother died. I feel so affected by this why???? I visit my still born sisters grave but you all no you can't ask for answers. Im at the stage where i don't believe in GOD it hurts so bad. Please someone help me.